You have two grips to choose in life: one where you see all the bad things that happen, or one where you see all the good things that happen.
Everything has two handles, the one by which it may be carried, the other by which it cannot. If your brother acts unjustly, don’t lay hold on the action by the handle of his injustice, for by that it cannot be carried; but by the opposite, that he is your brother, that he was brought up with you; and thus you will lay hold on it, as it is to be carried. – Epictetus
I have been forced to confront my view of life lately. I am living in one of the most expensive cities in the world, currently without work, an expensive flat, and lots of hurdles to obtaining an income. Seems bleak, right?
On the other hand, cities are full of opportunity – for where there are so many people, there are needs, and business is built off of solving needs. I have a flat that I am sharing with my wife and another friend, so there are several of us to earn income, reducing the weight of financial responsibility on any one of us. I have access to Wifi (via the use of two devices) if I visit a shopping center. I don’t really even have to buy coffee, although I can. And with that access to the internet, I can break down the obstacles one by one, and eliminate the hurdles to finding work.
So I find it expedient to tell myself to, “Get a grip!” The reality is that if I focus on the positive options, I will sooner see solutions and obtain the desired results. Focusing on the negative only serves to keep me in the world of minimal options and more difficulty.